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How to Keep Her Hot - a new weekly column for men by Melinda Gallagher, Founder of CAKE and Co-Author of The Hot Woman's Handbook.

TIP #5: Get tuned in

It is assumed that men are stimulated by visual images and women are stimulated more by context - that we would rather read a story about sex than actually see it. Guess what? We like to do both! A new study from the Washington University School of Medicine suggests the brain is quickly turned on and "tuned in" when women view erotic images. Yes when presented with erotic material we get turned on just as quick and just as strongly as the boys. Who knew? We did. Come on “science” tell us something we don’t know.

Past research has suggested that men are more visual creatures than women and get more aroused by erotic images than women. However, one of the researchers in the study says the fact that the women's brains in this study exhibited such a quick response to erotic pictures suggests that, perhaps for evolutionary reasons, our brains are programmed to preferentially respond to erotic material. "Usually men subjectively rate erotic material much higher than women," one of the author of the study says. "So based on those data we would expect lower responses in women, but that was not the case. Women have responses as strong as those seen in men." Alright, let's hear it for the ladies!

Think of porn as an education. This content can be a learning tool, a reflection of how sex actually happens and an inspiration for arousal. Everyone could stand to learn a few new positions. Sit her down in front of your television with a pile of pornos, and you’ll be surprised with the unexpected things that get her hot. When you sample what’s out there - amateur couples at home, chic lesbians in bathroom stalls, big breasted blonds in the boardroom, the mistress and her slave in the dungeon - it’s hard not to find a little something that looks good to her…and you. It’s all about context.

If you want to get her watching porn, focus on X Rated material with imagery that turns her on e.g. she might not be into exactly the same "Teens in Tight Jeans #12" video that you may like, but a good ol’ favorite with female pleasure in mind, like Andrew Blake's "House of Dreams" or "The Opening of Misty Beethoven," works everytime.

Stay tuned next week for more tips!

XO.