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How to Keep Her Hot - a new weekly column for men by Melinda Gallagher, Founder of CAKE and Co-Author of The Hot Woman's Handbook.

TIP #3: Understand her cycle

You know the anecdote – men think about sex every six seconds. While this is an obvious exaggeration, we never hear about the quantity or quality of women’s daily sexual thoughts. Since sexual dysfunction in healthy pre-menopausal women is almost nil, why would women have issues getting aroused? While prince charming will always make our panties wet, and a loving relationship is a big turn on – female arousal is not always dependent on romance.

If those cravings for sex during some of the month and the lack of interest during others gets you down, don’t fret. Recent studies on female fertility indicate that women do in fact have arousal cycles that hormonally affect their libido. As estrogen spike right before ovulation, many women feel particularly hornbally in her mid-cycle, while others report much wetness and arousal right before they get their periods. This is also due to a slight spike of estrogen at that time. Even though this explains some of the ups and downs of women’s mysterious libidos, don’t let hormones dictate your sex life. Become attuned to your girl’s body’s arousal signals, and figure out what makes you hot, and what dulls your senses. Our libidos are there and ready for the picking!

Stay tuned next week for more tips!

XO.