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How to Keep Her Hot - a new weekly column for men by Melinda Gallagher, Founder of CAKE and Co-Author of The Hot Woman's Handbook.

Let's start with the basics. Women, like poker players, often have tells. Understanding the tip-offs to how to keep her hot for years may be written by the laws of science rather than what you may think of as the rules of love. Straight from the womanly experts - here are some fabulous tips to "unzipping" your female partner. While there is no one "how-to" set of tips to keeping all women hot forever, with the right encouragement and direction, any guy can make her purr.

TIP #1 - FACT: Routine is boring

You don’t need to change your partner, but you definitely need to do a little switch-a-roo on the general game plan. At the end of the day, keeping up a healthy sexual appetite is not unlike one's approach to food. Who wants to eat Chinese food every night? Well, at least you can order the Peking duck instead of the spare ribs, or maybe go out to eat as opposed to just taking out. Why do couples get bored with their love lives? Simply put, they don't take a long-term view. They either get stuck in the same routine, or they fall prey to the "once you're married, its over" or "once you are monogamous, that’s the end." How then, do you combat the notion that "variety is the spice of life?" Are variety and monogamy mutually exclusive? No way! We are here to help you with keep it hot.

Are men and women different? Of course we are, but that does not have to be an impediment when it comes to keeping her hot. In fact, our differences may be the very things that keep us coming back for more. According to Helen Fisher, the noted biological anthropologist - " When we embrace these differences we realize that the sexes complement each other to create a balanced culture." Scientific research and newfound quantitative evidence supports the notion that women are indeed just as sexually inclined as men, when given the chance. The key then is to tap into this nucleus of untapped sexual energy, and do so collaboratively. Using it to get both of you off, longer, and better. The key words are "be pro-active" (kind of like "be the ball", if you don’t get it already).

Stay tuned next week for more tips!

XO.