Cake

I grew up in a home where my mother strictly forbid sex and made a big deal about saving myself for the "right guy" and all that jazz. I can't say I haven't come to agree with her on some level. Monogamy is just what's right for me. So I went through high school and all of my girl friends were having sex and telling awful stories of their rather painful first times. Here I am, young, impressionable, and everyone's telling me how awful it will all be and that I'm just supposed to grin and bear it because "it will get better".

To be honest the whole idea scared the hell out of me. So I get to college and I meet a guy and we really hit it off. Eventually year ended and I had to go home but I came back for summer work and he was still here. I was so excited to see him and we spent the day together. It got late so I decided to stay over at his place. Things started getting really heated up when we finally cut the television and started making out. He such an amazing kisser! We were rolling around in bed and caressing each other's bodies.

Clothes were flying off left and right and finally, at this point he's on top of me, I look up and ask him to stop. I know he wants to have sex but respects me enough not to, but more importantly, I want to and I feel fully sure about that. I told him I wanted to and he asked me if I was sure and I told him I was. Then I asked him how he felt about me and he went into this unbelievable speech about the first time we met and how much he loved me.

Call me naive but I believed him and I felt it to. I smiled and kissed him softly and asked him to be gentle. He did everything I asked and understood what I needed without me having to say a word. I was really surprised at how attentive he was. It didn't hurt a bit. Granted I was inexperienced and it wasn't mind-blowing sex. But I felt comfortable and right about it and it was the beautiful experience I'd been hoping for and so much more. He even made me breakfast in bed the next morning! So my little bead of advice for girls who are like me out there, don't worry. Be patient and don't rush it because it's only what you make of it. It really doesn't have to be as awful as people say.