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What is her research? Where is her evidence? Oh yeah, there does not have to be any new evidence, don’t we all know that intercourse is a sign of a misogynistic culture, one of Viagra and the pharmaceutical industry taking over sexuality. Now while there is agreement on that topic and of course there needs to be more research on female sexuality and reproductive health in general, this in no way negates the fact that many, many women love to fuck, love their g-spots and yes, experience female ejaculation (no it's not pee.) How do we know this? We have done the research, the interviewing and the collecting of information from modern day women to prove it.

And this folks is the major problem with people who are out of touch with the present day and hold on to dear life to their 30 year old hypothesis while the rest of us go flying on by. And I would also say that it stalls the woman’s movement, dividing the old with the younger generation. For example, when asked if they would support research on the g-spot and female ejaculation, the answer was a resounding “we’ll get back to you on that” wink, wink.

The raises a bigger issue however than just feminist infighting (which is as old as feminism itself.) Rather, the question remains, can heterosexual women achieve sexual equality in the bedroom with men? Is it possible to be a feminist and love to fuck? Is fucking as fun for women as it is for men or are we all faking it?

As J. Courtney Sullivan writes in the past week’s NY Times Modern Love column, Changing My Feminist Mind, One Man at a Time, there seems to be a literal disconnect between embracing female heterosexuality (dating, romance, fucking) and being a feminist. We say nonsense. The real problem is that feminism needs to catch up to the rest of us - not the other way around. As Sullivan notes - “one wise women's studies professor at Smith had said about feminism: ‘None of this means anything unless we can get men on board. That's not achieved by marches or movements, but by one individual changing another individual for the better.’

I will go one further - sexual equality begins in the bedroom. Heterosexual intercourse may not be the only way to get off, but it sure can get us all juiced up.