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PLAYWRIGHT
The Erotica Project (co-author)
Secretary (screenplay)
and the upcoming: Fur: An Imaginary Portrait of Diane Arbus (screenplay)

As a woman, what is it about James Spader that you find sexy? Most men I know don't really get his appeal.

James Spader is unbelievably hot. Aside from being very good looking, having very kissable lips and teeth, and great hair that you want to put your fingers through, he has hands that you want to grab you and hold you. He has that "ice stare" that is both sadistic and vulnerable; and about all else, he is a concentrated, obsessed, and incredible actor. He makes you feel like if he were looking at you, nothing else in the world would matter. He's perfect to play opposite the assertive submissive. I think the reason that men sometimes cannot figure out his appeal and that women find him so incredible, is that he plays best as the object of a film- the object of desire - rather than the subject. He is not the typical male hero/protagonist. He is made for women.

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