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Dear Pleasure Hunter,
Thanks for your question. Many women share your experience of not being able to get over the hump to achieve orgasm, especially with a partner. They report feeling self-conscious of giving into to the sensations and allowing another person to witness that vulnerability. But having an orgasm isn’t about losing control, it is an act of pleasure. We recommend the following pleasure mission for you to help you get to where you want to go:

Pleasure Mission - TAKE CHARGE:
Forget about your orgasm for a second and focus on arousal. You can forego your fear by taking charge of the moments leading up to orgasm – the goal is not to quickly come, but to get into the process - a complete pleasure principle if you will. Consciously and purposely do whatever it takes to get to the point where you are so hot and hard that you couldn’t squelch your pleasure if you tried. Your orgasm is only a part of the program, but it is sure to change and evolve as you explore.

Pleasure Tips:

On Your Own:
Know your own arousal cycle (track it with info from Chapter 2: Rock Your Body) and go pleasure hunting when you know the time is right. Turn yourself on with ideas inspired from your every day experiences. Get graphic and rent a movie with a sex scene in it that turns you on and replay it over and over. (CAKE flick picks in Chapter 11: The Porn Myth). While you watch, add your own fantasies to the mix by imaging how you would make the scene even hotter with personal additions to cast, crew, costumes and include some of the things that got you hot during the day. Don’t reach for the Hitachi and go for broke right away. Experiment with new ways of touching your body (techniques in Chapter 3: Play Solitaire) and explore everywhere - back to front, instead and out. Add a toy that is focused on g-spot stimulation, like the crystal wand, to your regular Hitachi techniques. Identify a trigger image and focus on this when your body’s warm, wet and hot. Keep your body relaxed and your breath moving – don’t force an orgasm, just enjoy whatever you feel. Repeat (with your own additions) every night for one week. We bet by the end of the week you will be experiencing new sensations of pleasure.

Report back with a detailed explanation of your week and we’ll continue on with Pleasure Tips for Getting It On with a partner.

CAKE GIRLS:
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