CAKE Girls, comment and post your response to Chelsea's experience!

The other night my boyfriend said that he wanted to eat me out. I said that i was obliged to fulfill his request.

QUESTION:

Q. Dear Dr Anna,

Dear Cake, I have a new partner who is fantastically interested in pleasing me. I have never climaxed from vaginal intercourse and it is his mission to make it happen (good thing). My question is this...I felt aroused by sensation/contact on my anterior vaginal wall, but was intimidated by the fact that I also felt like I would lose control of my bladder and since I was uncertain, I think I held back. Is this a common sensation? Should I move right through it or was I truly going to lose control of my bladder....not sexy. Sincerely, Texas

ANSWER:

QUESTION:

Q. Dear Dr Anna

I am just so embarrassed; my nether regions smell strange, especially after sex. I don’t have any other symptoms and feel fine. I’m too embarrassed to go to my GP. Sex has lost its spontaneity, as I feel I have to wash before hand.

ANSWER:

Dr. Anna is a sexual health expert and the director at The Women's Clinic at the Portland Hospital for Women in London.

"My clinic is dedicated to helping women (and their partners)enjoy and care for their sexual health."

She gives confidential advice, specialist treatment and listens with respect. She treats every patient with confidentiality,care and courtesy.

Now Dr. Anna answers your questions on sexual health. Submit your question to Dear CAKE to ask Dr Anna your sexual health question below.

All right party people, it is your chance to help a girl out...Love, CAKE

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My name is Bonnie. I am 38. I live in Auburn, AL. I am happily married for almost 15 years. My husband and I have told each other our fantasies. Well my fantasy has always been to have sex with another woman and my husband. To me it would be very erotic to see another woman caress my man's c*ck. For the three of us just to romp and play and no strings attached. But I really don't know how to do this. That is find the right woman. My husband is all for this of course. But I'm really not quite sure how to do this properly. I took him to a strip club for his birthday. Could anyone here help me on this one? Thanks Bonnie

QUESTION:

Dear CAKE

Hi CAKE: I am a 24 year old sexually active female. I enjoy having sex with my boyfriend. He is really good at it, and I feel good at the end of it. I feel the pain, the fun, and everything. But I still don’t know if I have had an orgasm - you know what does the maximum peak feel like? Can you please describe for me what it feels like to have an orgasm so I know. Thanks.

Signed,
Anonymous

ANSWER:

Dear Anon,

Oh no! Mon dieu - When it comes to coming, EVERY girl should have that lovin’ feelin’.

QUESTION:

Dear CAKE

I am 21 and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. He is the first and only person I have had sex with, which is why this problem is very hard to figure out for me...I can't achieve an orgasm with him.

I have only had a clitoral orgasm, which I achieved by myself with the aid of a vibrator that only stimulates the clit.

I know the reason I haven't had an orgasm during sex isn't because I am embarrassed, because I feel completely comfortable while I'm with him and while having sex, but I do get bored after a little while. I don't know if there's something wrong with me, him, or the two of us together, or if it would be different with someone else. But I have almost lost hope of ever having one...please help!

Signed,
Hard up

ANSWER:

Dear Hard Up,

THERE IS NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU - We hear this common complaint from many women and the solution is simple…

If you can have an orgasm with yourself you can have an orgasm with your partner.

more good clean advice after the flip...

QUESTION:

Dear CAKE

So I’ve got two male friends interested in a 3some. I have two male friends really into doing a threesome after thinking about it, mainly because of reading your book, I figured I’d put it on here. So the question is if I’m not into one of the two will it be good anyway? Is it best to see if it just happens or tell them I wanna take them up on the offer? And really how do I talk them out of telling everyone we know? Haha it’s a totally intriguing thing and I am definitely interested in experiencing it however I don’t know how you’re supposed to feel out the, "right time."

Thanks,
Lisserzz.

ANSWER:

Dear Lissie,

Call us crazy, hornballs, but we say if they are willing and able and you are into it – tell them. For sure, you can build up to it – dropping hints and driving them crazy with innuendo. Nothing like a little tease, please and pluck to get your juices flowing.

The right time? Well that’s now!

more below the flip...